… by the current situation in Libya and how little attention it is getting globally. Injured people being murdered in the hospital, people getting killed because they want to bury their loved ones, women being raped by the army, jet fighters firing at unarmed protesters. It’s just horrible.
It’s night right now. There’s something else you should be doing at the moment. You ate chicken today. You are lactose intolerant. There’s a nearby TV on. You get along with your neighbors Twilight is a horrible series. You’re hungry right now. You have worked out today. Running a mile sounds awful. You have a job. You love to bake Christmas cookies. Your parents are still together You woke up before 11 this morning. Baths are better than showers. You are 5’5” or shorter. You hate British accents. Victoria’s Secret is a good store. Cats are better than dogs. The 90’s sucked. Your cell phone is right next to you. Your favorite color is either blue or purple. Your hair is short. You are by yourself right now. The last thing you drank was water. You’re in your PJ’s right now. Your hair color is natural. Fred from Youtube is annoying. You don’t drink soda. There’s at least 20$ in your wallet. It’s cold out. Orange juice is better than apple juice. You love someone right now. Video games are awesome. Your sheets are white. You have read works by Shakespeare before. You know someone in the hospital right now. You’ve showered today. You know someone who has beaten cancer. Sneakers are your favorite shoes to wear. Chocolate is better than vanilla. You’re allergic to peanuts. You’ve never been to New York City. You’ve never been on a varsity sports team. You want to go to Europe. (I live in Europe) You’re using a laptop right now. Plastic surgery is a good idea. Vanilla is one of the best scents a girl can wear. You’ve made yourself throw up. You’ve cheated on someone before. You have a broken heart at the moment. Your friends do drugs. School is too early. Your nails have nail polish on them right now. You’re Italian. You have a tan right now. You’ve been on a diet before. You shop in plus sized clothing stores. Hot Topic is scary. There are socks on your feet right now. You’ve used a hair straightener. You’re in Verizon’s net Shopping online is easier than shopping in an actual store. Cheesecake is delicious. You have gotten your hair cut in the past month. Your birthday is within the next 2 months. You’ve been rejected. Comedies are better than action films. Math is the best subject. You are fluent in more than one language. You love Greek food. You consider yourself a picky eater. You have more than 3 pillows on your bed. You live with your parents. You’re happy right now. You are a high school graduate. You have a pet cat. You were born before April 5th, 1991. You have brown hair You have blue eyes. You last name is longer than 5 letters long. You are in a relationship. You can count to 20 in another language. You have studied a foreign language. You voted in the 2008 presidential election. You own a vehicle that is older than a 2004. You have worked 3rd shift. You have worked in a fast food restaurant. You drove somewhere that was further than a half hour away today. You live in New Jersey. You live in Montana. You live in Pennsylvania. Your last name begins with an ‘M’. Your middle name begins with a ‘C’. Your first name begins with an ‘S’. You are older than 19. You are younger than 16. You are an only child. Your parents are divorced. You have more than one sibling. You are an Aquarius. You are a vegetarian. You have a gym membership. You are in the military. You have a relative in the military. You have been to Canada. You have been to Mexico. You have been to Europe. You are currently enrolled in college/university. You have done something you told yourself you wouldn’t. You have braces. You wear contact lenses. You have a tattoo on your ankle. You have a tattoo on your wrist. You have a tattoo on your lower back. You have a tattoo on your upper arm. You have a lip piercing. You have a tongue piercing. You have your nipples pierced. You have your cartilage pierced. You have curly hair. You have received flowers from someone in the last 2 months. You are engaged. You are married. You have children. You are an aunt or uncle. Your bedroom walls are blue. Your bedspread is red. Your bedroom carpet is beige. You have been out to eat at a sit-down restaurant in the last week You have been drunk in the past week. You have lost your virginity before you turned 15. You are bisexual. You watch Scrubs. You watch Jon & Kate Plus 8. You watch American Idol. You have been to the movies within the last month. You have cursed in front of your grandparents. You had a lunch box with a cartoon character on it when you were little. You actually pay attention to politics. You are still waiting for your first kiss. You have kissed someone within the last week. You have kissed three or more people this year. You would kiss the last person you kissed again. You were told you looked cute today. You were hugged today. Your best friend is the opposite sex. You have paid more than $100 on one item of clothing. You had a date to prom. You are a good speller. You are always on time. You believe in karma. You have done something illegal within the last 24 hours. You have ridden an elevator within the last 3 days. You have spent the night at someone else’s house within the last 2 weeks. You have been out of the country within the last year. You love Chinese food. You love Italian food. You love Mexican food. You love country music. You love rap. You love hip hop. You love punk rock. You love hard rock. You love metal. You love classic rock. You love bluegrass. You love oldies. You love techno. You love instrumental music. You know someone younger than 10 who passed away. You have taken pictures of yourself just because you were bored. You have been in a car wreck. You have had stitches. You have a parent who is a teacher. You have a checking account. You have a debit card. You have a currently have a $2 bill in your possession. You have dated someone who was 2 years younger than you. You have dated someone who was 2 years older than you. You have broken up with someone for someone else. You have cheated on someone. You have been cheated on. You are Catholic. You are Mormon. You are Buddhist. You are Agnostic. You wish at 11:11. You have had your current job for more than 3 months. You have had your heart broken. You broke someone else’s heart. You felt bad about it. You have an Aunt Karen. You have an Uncle Bill. You have a cousin Sarah. You have a cousin Adam. You have worked with a Danielle. You have ridden in a car with a Stephen. You have hugged a Tiffany. You have kissed a Blake. You have had class with a David. You have had a crush on an Emily. You have dated a Derek. You have been neighbors with a Hannah. You have done something just for the fact that you were old enough to. You have been to a cemetery at midnight. You have been a vampire for Halloween. You have been a witch for Halloween. You have been a pumpkin for Halloween. You have stayed up for 48 hours straight. You have been to walmart in the past 3 days. You own a pair of scrubs. You own a cowboy hat. You own a leather coat. You are missing someone right now. You have been let down recently. You have had someone you thought you could trust betray you. You would rather have a one-night stand than a relationship. You would rather win $500 from the lottery, than guest on a game show. You have met someone famous.
“Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag.She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilightseries.
If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
Or better yet, date a girl who writes.”—Rosemary Urquico (via kblitz)
Hey girl :) So, do you and your darling have a date set for the wedding?
Not an exact date yet, we’re only just engaged (since Christmas). But we’re thinking about tying the knot somewhere in the summer of 2010. I’d love to get married in June but I’m graduating then which means I will have A LOT of school work to get done that will cause a lot of stress. That combined with organizing a wedding, nah don’t think that’s a brilliant idea ;). So maybe July or August will be better but we’re still thinking about that.